There are plenty of ways you can lose satisfaction in your job.
You may have outgrown your position and feel you're overqualified. You're stuck in a rut, bored by the day-to-day routine. Or you're angry and frustrated at not getting the opportunities and accolades you've earned.
Take a breath. You can get things back on track. But you will have to gather up your courage and have the "talk" with your boss.
If you're like me, the whole idea of meeting with your boss to talk about your future is scary. But if you want change, speak up. Your happiness depends on it.
The conversation needn't be contentious. After all, your boss probably has no idea of your frustration. Instead, use this chance to showcase your ability, skills and objectives. Be clear about what you offer your company and what direction you'd like to take your career.
Asking your boss these five questions could make all the difference.
1. Can I have a raise?
Simply put, money can make you happy. It's hard to find the courage to request a pay bump. That said, "I've never heard of anyone getting fired for asking for a raise," says career coach Phyllis Mufson.
The good news is that, according to a recent survey, firms expect to raise base pay in 2013 by an average of 2.9 percent.
But waiting to ask for a raise at your annual review is usually too late, says Suzanne Lucas, who blogs as the Evil HR Lady. "You've missed the boat. The money for the year has already been allotted and your boss cannot increase your pay without taking away from your coworkers — and that isn't going to happen."
Boss Talk: Raise
Pay attention to your posture. When we're anxious, we tend to collapse our chests, fidget in our chairs and shift positions.
Make eye contact and be sure to smile.
Instead, ask for a raise three to four months before your annual review, Lucas suggests. Or ask for one after you've finished a major project or fixed a tricky problem with a client. Take advantage of those signature moments before your work is forgotten.
One big no-no: Don't tell your boss you need a raise because you can't pay your bills, your adult children just moved in or your husband left you. "Your boss doesn't care. Your salary isn't determined by how much you need to spend, but by how much value you bring to the company," Lucas says. "If you're going to ask for a raise, show that you're awesome."
That means making a list of your job responsibilities and how you've contributed to the company's bottom line. Print out all those "Great job" emails.
Check out websites for national averages and pay ranges in your industry, city and region. Have a figure in mind, but don't ask for a specific number: Suggest a range instead.
If your company is laying people off and reducing costs, you might have to cool your heels until things improve.
2. Can we change my job?
If you've been in your position for a while, and have taken on extra responsibilities over time, ask about a promotion. Or consider a title change or revision to your job description, which may help get you the recognition and respectability you've wanted.